在美国被说种族歧视了。歧视和不喜欢的区别在哪？
被人问择偶标准：我说喜欢皮肤白一点的，xxxxx省略
对方说：那你不考虑黑人咯
我说：是的，黑人长相不符合我的审美
对方马上说：racist
当然，我也允许别人因为我是亚洲人而不喜欢我，尊重和理解每个人的审美取向
我寻思，我不喜欢某一个特质就算是歧视？那我说，我只喜欢1.8的，是不是歧视矮子？我说喜欢学历高的，是不是歧视低学历？我说喜欢女的，是不是歧视男人？
不是的
不喜欢和歧视有很大的区别。真正的歧视是，因为我不喜欢黑皮肤，所以黑人来应征，我作为HR，不考虑他的工作能力而把他淘汰掉，这才算歧视。就像我觉得东北话很难听，所以我不看春晚小品。我不喜欢黑人，只是我私人的审美自由。
对方说：那你不考虑黑人咯
我说：是的，黑人长相不符合我的审美
对方马上说：racist
当然，我也允许别人因为我是亚洲人而不喜欢我，尊重和理解每个人的审美取向
我寻思，我不喜欢某一个特质就算是歧视？那我说，我只喜欢1.8的，是不是歧视矮子？我说喜欢学历高的，是不是歧视低学历？我说喜欢女的，是不是歧视男人？
不是的
不喜欢和歧视有很大的区别。真正的歧视是，因为我不喜欢黑皮肤，所以黑人来应征，我作为HR，不考虑他的工作能力而把他淘汰掉，这才算歧视。就像我觉得东北话很难听，所以我不看春晚小品。我不喜欢黑人，只是我私人的审美自由。
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This is an aspect of American culture that foreigners might not understand unless someone explains it to them. We have a long history of judging people solely by the color of their skin, so as a modern civilized society, we try not to do it anymore and definitely not in public.
In the Segregationist South, black people judged themselves using the paper bag rule: if you were black but lighter-skinned than a brown paper lunch bag, then you were welcomed into certain social groups, but rejected if you were darker. When Europeans from the less pale regions like Italy began immigrating to America in large numbers, they were considered too dark and no good. In the racist ideology of the Nazis, the British and Scandanavians were considered white enough to stand on a level footing with the Germans, but the other Europeans were considered darker and lesser.
This sensitivity about skin color and its exact shade is one of the foundations of historical racism in America, so it's no surprise that someone would judge you as racist when you start talking about skin color in dating preferences. To avoid unpleasantness in future, I would learn from this experience, and avoid mentioning skin color as your basis for deciding anything at all. Chinese society is overtly racist as the norm, so you should probably be extra careful if you don't want to be judged negatively in America.
In the Segregationist South, black people judged themselves using the paper bag rule: if you were black but lighter-skinned than a brown paper lunch bag, then you were welcomed into certain social groups, but rejected if you were darker. When Europeans from the less pale regions like Italy began immigrating to America in large numbers, they were considered too dark and no good. In the racist ideology of the Nazis, the British and Scandanavians were considered white enough to stand on a level footing with the Germans, but the other Europeans were considered darker and lesser.
This sensitivity about skin color and its exact shade is one of the foundations of historical racism in America, so it's no surprise that someone would judge you as racist when you start talking about skin color in dating preferences. To avoid unpleasantness in future, I would learn from this experience, and avoid mentioning skin color as your basis for deciding anything at all. Chinese society is overtly racist as the norm, so you should probably be extra careful if you don't want to be judged negatively in America.
